Note: I have never been to NYFW (New York Fashion Week) so this is purely an outsider’s perspective. That’s why this is, well, #JustAThought. (Also, photo above via Earned It by The Weeknd, duh.)
One. You’ve been working ridiculously hard at work the last year. You improved the skills your boss asked you to work on. You developed a system that works and assists you in being a good colleague, business partner, project manager and producer. You use strategy and thoughtful execution, and you produce results. You say yes to what’s important, and learned how to say no when necessary. You are one of the most reliable co-workers, and you do what’s needed plus a little bit more, to get the job done. You inspire others, and whether or not people always agree with you, you are respected and people value your insight. You get promoted. It feels good because you can say, “Damn. I earned this.”
Two. You’re a mediocre employee. You like what you do and it feels good to get things done, but you only do enough to get by. You know that you still have a long way to go, and you’ll eventually get where you’re supposed to be. You rarely “get ahead” or offer your creative assistance–unless you feel like it. You get promoted. Well that’s nice and all but you can’t help but think, “Hmm, this doesn’t feel right…”
Are you with me? Okay. Great.
New York Fashion Week.
Models walking down runways in clothes you don’t really understand. Celebrity appearances. Street style. Fashion bloggers and their outfit changes and Instagrams. Traffic sounds horrible. And it seems like no one has time to eat. Crowds. No sleep. What’s all the hype about? (And why am I dying to go?)
I am pretty sure that if you are at NYFW (again, outside perspective), you are there because you did something to deserve to be there. The designers, photographers, writers, makeup artists, bloggers, models, editors, publishers, the people behind the scenes, and more–they didn’t get there by chance. They worked really hard to not only be a part of, but cultivate, the experience that showcases the creative souls that shape each and every moment of the progressive fashion industry. Fashion doesn’t hide, minimize or ignore creativity, thoughtfulness and hard work. When it’s right in front of you in-person or through a lens, it speaks for itself.
When a designer’s collection comes down the runway, it is so much more than dramatic makeup and extravagant outfits and over-sized ruffles. It resembles strength, leadership, teamwork, creativity, authenticity–there is so much admiration just knowing the amount of work that goes into creating a single collection. Then being able to showcase it for passionate and like-minded people!? How rewarding for the people who helped make it all happen. When I see bloggers at NYFW, I think the same thing–their presence symbolizes hard work and a history. They have done something respectable to be there. They’ve earned their spot in the first, second–whatever row, maybe no row–but whatever row, they earned it.
I think that’s why I don’t feel envious or jealous when I see my feed is flooded of people at NYFW. I feel energized and inspired–and I’m like, that’s so cool they get to be there and experience NYFW to the level they do (and “I want to do that!!”). If I were to go to NYFW now, I don’t think my experience would be the same, or as comfortable, as if I did something to truly deserve to be there. And I want to experience it for all that it is.
So one day, when I finally get there–or to any Fashion Week for that matter–I’ll be sitting in my runway-side chair, in awe of the bright lights, and I’ll be like, “Damn. I earned this.” Maybe I’ll even earn a feature in a high-end pop culture mag’s “Best of NYFW Street Style Moments.” < insert wink emoji here >
Just a thought.
Jealousy and envy are human feelings–social media often only maximizes those feelings. But what if we were energized and inspired by the passion and hard work of others, instead of envious or jealous of their experiences? Would that impact our behavior and lead to more positive outcomes and valued perspectives? Think about the things you’re really passionate about. Then think about being an admirable and inspiration figure in your passion–whatever it may be. You’re an inspiration because you went through the process to get there.That’s why your perspective and experiences are valued. Isn’t there something to be said for earning your ticket to the front row?
Would love to hear your thoughts–leave a comment! Happy Sunday! Xx